Today I took my four year old swimming at the YMCA. FYI free membership for spouse and children of deployed National Guard soldiers. You need at title 10 form, a copy of the orders, and a military ID. She loved this special mommy daughter time, just the two of us. Sometimes kids can get lost in the shuffle during a deployment when a parent is now wearing both hats. I have decided to schedule time with each of my children alone, so I can focus on them one at a time. I have arranged with a teenage neighbor to come over to watch one of my children while I do something special with the other one each week, such as swimming at the Y.
I find myself shuttling my children and I from one activity or place to another keeping them busy, while in my own head I am worried about the next thing. Take some time to spend by yourself as well away from your children. I know it is hard, but try to at least do it once every other month if not more often. I suggest things like getting your nails done, a massage, or a nice bath. Everyone needs to take a break and just because your spouse is deployed does not mean you have to wait till they return.
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